For the Guy with Kids and a WW XV

[hopeful4her]

I did have the same thoughts. Like dub said, I just want her to know that I'm not just sitting around waiting for her. I am living a life again. I told her the same a few weeks ago. She has to know my feelings for her.

How would you define "taking that temperature"? What actions?

I would have to say that my gut tells me that right now, it is the best of both worlds. I realize that. I'm temporarily trying to make her realize things more. After she moved out, I would barely acknowledge her when I picked up the girls. I felt her trying, but I resisted. Then I would give a smidge, then something would take it right back. Usually involving the OM.

I just wasn't sure how long I was going to keep this going. 2 or 3 weeks maybe. Then pull back again. A few weeks ago, she made a very jealous type of comment that got me thinking about changing my approach to her. Her, "...and who might THAT be?" comment when I alluded to a female that wanted a puppy.

We don't have any R talks. No sharing of feelings. Problem is, I don't want anything left unsaid on my part. I don't think that I can screw it up anymore than what it is already. I want to make sure she knows the things that I have realized. If the path doesn't change, then that is her decision. If we divorce, I won't be thinking, "I should have let her know that...."

I don't know.