Matilda, Thanks. I'm grateful that I had it as an alternate means of communicating. She asked me to read the poem three times.
We were able to reconnect the next evening, by going out dancing. I'm able to see, even though it's poorly communicated, that my W wants to connect with me, yet is angry and frustrated with me at the same time. She enjoys the connection from the dancing, is frustrated with personality differences, and is angry/sad about aspects of the past.
Family politics has entered the dog situation. We adopted the puppy from my W's sister. She wants to micromanage our handling of the puppy; my W and I want autonomy. Training the puppy is difficult in and of itself.
My W has decided to return the puppy, fearing that that continued conflict between she and her sister would strain their relationship. We are disappointed and relieved.
We'll see how this plays out. Maybe we'll adopt a puppy from somewhere else.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
