Andrea-I know it would be hard knowing your H was there with OW. Does he know you know he was there with her? With everything you have been through with him, I know you will figure this out. If you suggest going somewhere else, you are bringing her up again to him. Building your own memories in that place I think is a good idea. Let him see that you are NOT intimidated by her memory. Let him see that you trust that he is done with her once and for all. I know you do not bring the OW up to him, and that is good. I think he probably knows your boundaries where they are concerned. He is with you because that's where he wants to be. NOT with them. You were more important to him. It's hard to trust once it's been betrayed, I know. If we are to move on though we have to "act as if" we do long before we actually do. His actions are what's important. He is acting like he loves you from what you say. Actions speak louder than words. If he were cold and distant, then it would be different, but he's not. You must be doing something right girl -It's working, so keep it up! Keep us posted, Rachael
