On the one hand, I wish I had known/done more to help my W in the ways she really needed it (intimacy/romance/love languages); on the other hand she bears responsiblity in the way she could not/would not clarify her needs or communicate them effectively.
From my point of view, she didn't try to understand mine either. I don't think she has ever asked me what I needed in the R, or what she could do.
I think this has to be an ongoing conversation in a growing couple, because our understanding of what we need/would like grows over time.
Me 47, W 32,D 6, Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7 Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09
