I am posting this question to any WAW who had an affair.
My W has been having an EA for 6 months now. W wants a divorce and we are working with a moderator. W is still in the house, we have 3 kids. The "plan" is to D in the new year. I have been DBing since the summer (I know, patience, patience). I ahve made a lot of changes and am a much better person for it. One thing that my IC is really working with me on is to not "submerge" my feeling and to ask for what I want. In other works self-respect.
My question is whether A) my W views me as a doormat for "putting up" with her A by saying nothing or b) do I "respect myself" by asking her to end A or, if not, ask that we seperate immediately. If any WAW could chime in, I would greatly appreciate it.
