Digging in

[hopeful4her]

This is beautiful, yenko. Really good news.

Did I read that ya'll had tried again not that long ago? That she ended up saying it was a mistake. I could be thinking of someone elses thread.

What I would give to be in your shoes. In control of the sitch. I also forget, how long have you been separated?

Sorry for the ????'s.

Just trying to learn something, you know.

Happy for you, dude.

[yenko69]

The thing is, it can't be the life you had, it has to be a new one. The old life is gone. Keep the lines of communication open as you draw out the blueprints for your new life.

She mentioned that she wanted to get through this and renew our marriage vales (sp?) and start a new R and M. Which I did agree with. Neither one of us want our R to end up where it was.

H4H,

Yeah she came back again in late August. I should have seen through it since it was not genuine. This time was way different though and I really can't explain it. Did not see it then, but I do now. We have been separated since May. I got the ILBNILWY in June. No prob with the questions. I am no expert by any means. I do understand the learning part and trying to compare time frames ect. Not sure if this will even work.

I know I still have a long, long way to go. The only thing to do is see what happens. The hope has been reignited, but I keep it in check. The goal is high, the expectations are low. The honest answer is I still may be single soon, only time will tell.

[lost_in_space]

Yenko

That's awesome. I am taking a lot away fro so many sitches - hope I can do as well in mine as many have. Not results perhaps, but the right approach.

[hopeful4her]

I think that there is way more communication about things this time, you know? Big difference.

How long has OM been in the pic? I was hearing this crap last Sept or Oct. Her OM has been around since maybe June last year. EA turned to PA.

[yenko69]

LIS,

I took alot from many sitch also. I don't know the right approach is. I just read "love must be tough" and based my letter to her on that. I did make an ultimatum without it sounding like it yesterday.

She did say things started to change last monday when she did not even want to go upstairs to court without me being there. It just escalated from there. Then last night she had to get in touch with me and was surprised that the cellphone was on and I replied back to her.

H4H,

Yeah there was way more communication this time. It was more open and honest then before. I think that the EA with the OM was going on a little before the speech. OM was an old boyfriend of the W and she is close with his sister. My W started talking to OM about our M problems and went from there. The first real thing that stood out was in May.

Funny thing about life this song came on when I was getting close to the house. It was how I felt and still do a little even after talking with the W.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K4QS5n4BiyA

[kat727]

Don't you have to get up early to be in Topeka by 7:00? You need to go to sleep! lol

[yenko69]

Don't you have to get up early to be here by 7:00? You need to go to sleep! lol

730, I have never really slept that much anyway. More then 5-6 hours messes me up. But I will go to bed soon, I promise. Good looking out though. And you wonder why people think you are so sweet.

[hopeful4her]

H4H,

Yeah there was way more communication this time. It was more open and honest then before. I think that the EA with the OM was going on a little before the speech. OM was an old boyfriend of the W and she is close with his sister. My W started talking to OM about our M problems and went from there. The first real thing that stood out was in May.

So its been fairly recent events, then. I wish I would have found this place last year.

[yenko69]

In comparison, yes fairly recent. Still a long ways to go. It moved rapidly when I let go, quit telling her what I was doing and moved on. Still have a long, long ways to go.

Her first reaction to the letter I sent her yesterday. She called and called me a hypocrite. I was thinking of something else and asked what. She asked me who she was since I moved on. That was just the dynamics involving my W, the whole jealousy thing. I just played the card and got the results (maybe). Everyone is different though. That and I did drop the rope and fully intended to move on.

[Babygirl]

hey bud, just a second before i have to crash, have a harley trip in the early am tomorrow. I hope tonite went well, I was thinking about ya. I will have to read up on your sitch tomorrow. I just got in from seeing the fireproof movie w my H. wow, both of us me and you on maybe a break thru nite! tomorrow we can catch up with eachother!
sweetdreams be careful sunday!