Ya know that's a very good question. I know that Dr. Willard Harley says 3-4 weeks in Plan A for Women and 6 months for men because men can handle it longer than women. If you feel that you can preserve your love for your H's then you can go for longer. But he says no longer than 6 months for anyone in Plan A because at some point it will have withdrawn love points so much that even if they do come back you won't want them. I agree, because I know for me I cannot continue meeting my H's needs in a Plan A and then he goes home and crawls in bed with the OW. I'll hate him eventually and that won't take to long. I'm focused now because I have only 27 more days. But let me tell you, saying good bye each time we see each other hurts. I want him to come home with me. He is now with her and I have been meeting all his needs the best I can. So to answer your question everyone should start Plan A right after the questionnaire and right away. This will fill his love bank. But if you to start to feel angry and taken advantage of then move to Plan B quick so you can save any love you have for your H's.
Me-38 H-38 Married 18years Daughter-17 & Son-9 Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08 Left home 5/08/08 Moved in with OW 08/01/08
The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family. -- Lee Iacocca
