Andrea - just wanted to say hello. You posted on my thread once. Thank you.
I think you are very insightful - and kind. Hope your H learns to appreciate you big time.
Quote: i always dream with a man so expresive and affective, but i know my man is not that kind, and that he preffer to express love caring about me, doing things together, making love frecuently, talking... So, i need to think more about the positive and try to accept and understand him like he is... I Had always demanded him to be more afective and he is doing great efforts about this, only that it seems is not sufficient for me...
Question? Is your H from your country also? Maybe a stereotype, but your need for affection may be partially cultural. I, too, love the affectionate types - "touchy feely, huggy kissy" I call it. During my long M, my H was NOT that way with ME, yet was with DS and DD. Drove me crazy - even a little jealous
But, you are right, you need to accept H for the way he is, although I think maybe you can teach him what you like (your LL), when things are going really well and he feels good about himself. Just my two cents.
