Wife filed final divorce papers last month. We'd been married 17 years. We had a lot of difficulties but I did not want the divorce, she did...said "I love you but I'm not in love with you" and all the rest. I did many of the things Michele warns against after she asked for the separation 6 months ago. About a month ago I read DR and learned a lot, then read SSM, which applied to our situation. I've been applying LRT recently. Can't tell yet if it has helped. About 2 weeks ago I got and listened to KLA, learned all the wrong things we did. Loved KLA, when listening I felt like Michele was talking directly to me. Anyway, wife/ex and I have been talking all along, and yesterday I e-mailed her to see if she would like to listen to KLA. She replied today: "Sure". But now I wonder if she will interpret my eagerness to have her listen to it as pressure to reconsider the divorce. Early in the separation I of course tried to convince her to change her mind and I think doing so only made her more determined to divorce. Now I worry that after she listens to KLA, she will interpret it as me trying to convince her to stop the divorce process, and it will increase her resolve to get divorced. On the other hand, the last CD in KLA gives her the info about divorce I think she needs to hear. Anyone here have an opinion or suggestion?
Me: 47 W: 44 No children Separation: April 2008 Divorce finalized: October 2008
