Just wanted to say I enjoy your posts to SMW a lot. You seem to have your feet on the ground. I have never been here and wont be. So, any advice would be -almost- worthless. But the feelings you describe sound normal and natural. It's the "watch what you are wishing for because you may get it" line I like to use some times...
I suggest you read Lan's (Lanzo)threads. He is a friend and has been working very hard to get his marriage back on track.