Well, Sara, we haven't dialogued in 11 days, either....H is just too busy with too many things that are not ME or OUR MARRIAGE....
I asked him last night what his plans were for today, he said "NO, tell me what YOU want to do tomorrow (today now)...."
I said, "Okay, I will. I want to spend the entire day with you hanging out together enjoying each other." I knew that was NOT his plan..
He said, "I am going to be putting up fence at mom and dad's tomorrow. You are welcome to come and hang out/help me if you want to spend time with me." Of course, it is always IF I want to see him, not the other way around...
So that involved me asking my parents YET AGAIN to watch the kids. They were already there from last night so I went over today and visited for an hour or so and then left to go see Dan. His parents had informed me yesterday that they were going to "hire someone" to come help Dan with the fence. So there was a High School kid who rode his bike over to help....I stayed for 25 minutes, got them both some water, and decided it was a waste of my time to stay.
I could get more done going home and mowing the yard for an hour, then getting the kids. He had a kid there to help with the job as well as I could, plus we couldn't exactly chit-chat/flirt/etc while he worked with another person there (GEE thanks, MIL and FIL). So I left.
I just got back to our house to mow and already I have a VM from H. It seems he left his tape measure in my car, could I drive back out to the farm and bring it to him? Sure I could. I am good for something, right?
Sorry, I am taking John's crabby pills today (just kidding John). I am just at my wits end. I was carefully observing H's interactions with High School Helper Boy. He was very polite and calm and friendly with him. H is also that way on the phone with his co-workers and friends. Apparently I am the lucky one that gets the brunt of his unhappiness....
And when I went in to get water, there is a bank statement lying in the center of the kitchen table with H's name on it for the local bank. He has $260 is a savings acct which gets statements mailed to his mom and dad. He had a $150 savings balance a couple years ago that got mailed there--left over from high school days. At the time I told him to close it out and move it into our account. I am just SURE that he did, so what is up with this new one? I know it is only $260 but I don't have my own accounts anywhere and they sure wouldn't be mailed to my parents if I did have them...sigh
