I believe in Miracles

[istherehope]

Hi Ali,

Oh I think our last posts crossed paths. Thanks for the feedback. I definitely don't want it to be sappy and mushy in any way, and I have already told him in the pat that this has been a great learning opportunity so what I want to do is keep the email just about asking for forgiveness for things I haven't mentioned before. In fact it really is in line with an article I read on a website he sent me that says one person should just take full responsibility and make the first move toward reconciliation. I won't use the R word of course, but I do feel like if I send this email, it needs to be clearly in line with the purpose of the day. By the way the reason I mention one site in particular is that it was one I used to be really judgmental about, so I thought calling out that I was learning from it could be good. So here's my initial draft:

Hi,

Just read an article about relationships and Yom Kippur on X(OK fine, so X isn't all bad...), and I want to say this before Yom Kippur starts…

I apologize for, and deeply regret, everything I've done that has hurt you. I take complete responsibility for where we are now.

I took the most important things for granted, neglecting our emotional bond. I let fear and stubbornness erode intimacy, and mistook smothering for support and love. I was wrong.

I sincerely ask for your forgiveness and will strive to earn it.

I understand the right greeting here is, may you be inscribed and sealed for a great year. (Hope I got that right)

Thank you for reading this. No response needed.

-ITH

So I've worked on this email a LOT. It used to be 500 words, and is now about 135. I feel like it COULD have a big impact, but I also run the risk of making things awkward when we are starting to get along better. However I haven't really asked for anything. I wouldn't send it until Wednesday like mentioned. That way I'd have Monday to see what the time in the house was like, and whether there were any clear reasons why I definitely SHOULDN'T send it etc.

Any thoughts?

ITH