I know what you are saying makes sense. I did the "c+m receptacle" thing last night and it was awful. Today I told him I can't do that again and I think we need to stop having sex for now. Which of course led him to say, "See, I told you so, you're just going to run away" etc. Am I proving him right or am I right to not put up with some of these things? Nothing seems to help! Thanks for your inputs -- I do appreciate them.