I'm not sure whether to be sympathetic and kindly and sweetly talk you off the ledge...

...or take a huge swing with my sarcastic 2x4 club.


STOP

LISTENING

TO

WORDS!!!!!


Especially words issued under the LOOSE lips of alcohol.


I guess I've chosen the latter.


Man up NDS. I mean it. Seriously and truly MAN the heck UP.


There is not one single person on this board, in a damaged marriage, that would not be THRILLED to have a spouse who at least acts lovingly towards them and allows them to have such FULL access to them. Not a single one.


And this is where you say, "Yeah, but...."


Bullshit.


This is not the place for the feint of heart. There is some seriously ugly [censored] that usually is going on around here.


Is your wife going to fall in love with someone she doesn't enjoy being with?

No


Is your wife going to want to be married to someone she has nothing in common with?

No


Is your wife going to choose to spend her life with someone who doesn't love her, care for her, think about her?

No



You're doing what needs to be done.


Supposedly you're doing what your heart COMPELS you to do. What you would do REGARDLESS of anything else in the situation.


So please tell me, what does her words from last night change?


Except for allowing you to feel sorry for yourself again.


And so I repeat....MAN the heck UP.


Sorry my friend. I was afraid that after all the nice positives here recently that you were going to get at least a taste of the "nothing has changed" speech at some point, and I had hoped that you would be able to shake it off and continue on.


Where is your progress?


Since when do her words have anything to do with her actions?


You're six months from moving out. According to her WORDS. Has she begun to put the "Moving Out" plan into action? Has she begun discussing how you are going to separate your financials and share your assets? Has she begun to talk about who gets to stay and who has to leave?


Why not?


Is it possible it's because those are JUST WORDS?


Why is that the cliche goes "ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS?"



While this woman is making love to you, she is telling you that you will never spend the rest of your life together.


Huh?


And finally, why are WE the only ones capable of seeing this disconnect between these little blips that come from her periodically and her actions?


You're a bright fellow.


Let's please start acting like one.


Sorry friend. 2x4 Called for.



Bill

"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."