Listening to me ramble helps. She now feels like she has 3 options, stay and be miserable (which does no good) go and lose everything or die....
I was going to respond to some other things further up in your reply but this one caught my eye & I think needs immediate attention. If she is saying things that one of her options is to 'die', that needs some serious attention.
How is that being addressed??
While I 'felt' as if I was drowning, I did not WANT to and was fighting to find a way to not drown in my marriage, but dying was not an option.
Originally Posted By: JayR
Her doc gave her anxiety meds but she refuses to take them. She sits in her car when she gets home for long periods and does not want to come in. She dreads being at home brings us all down while she is here and refuses to acknowledge she is depressed and tells her shrink that she has a more clear mind than ever.
Does he know she doesn't take them? Have you called and asked him what you can do to help support her? For other recommendations they can make?
Originally Posted By: JayR
I'm at a loss as to what to do or not do....
ARe you in counseling? You can not control what she does. You can only control you. That is hard to come to terms with when you see the person you love doing what you perceive as harmful things.
How old are your sons?
Last edited by Bridgestone; 10/04/0802:47 PM.
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