Well, lets journal a little just avoiding to preserve some moves or achievements that can be usefull to re-take in the future....
Everything had been so fine between us... We enjoyed a great weekend and me and him are so calm, relax and having fun...!!... enjoying our home, kids, and both presence...
About the things i posted i need to work on, i think there are some improvements...!!...

I always put too much expectations about my h reactions and actions... and if he do not act as i like, i get upset or beguin to feel unsure, unsecure, sad about our R
Again i put a great expectations on saturday... We were going toa friend of mine home... bc his S and mine will go together t a summer camp and we want them to meet before... So, my h doesnt knew this friend and his h and before we never use to get out with friends of mine and always use to get out with his friends or friends of both bc he feels more confortable that way... So, i had too much expectations about his mood on this meeting... But, guess what...?!!... even that expectations, i can controll my mood and relax and enjoy the night even i saw him not too much cnfortable and relax with my friends... and this time the thought i have was: Well... he is less social and open than me... i can be friendly and relax in any place, with new r old friends... but i need to accept he is not as me... This doesnt means he is not happy... this only means he is social different from me So, this time there were no blames from me... this time the night finish so well between us... and i enjoy a lot the night...!!...

I need to stop analyzing everything he say or do or every face or look
Although i analyze his mood on that meeting wuth my friends, my analysis was constructive and possitive...

Not directly asking for reassurance. Seeing it through action
He had came with us to my friends home... thats was count... He had done an effort... in the past he would said: No, i dont want to go... but this time he accept the invitation and he really try to enjoy it and pass it fun...!!... thats all... this is the way he is tellling me "hey, i am caring a lot about your wishes and needs..!

About the things i am doing each day better

I need to continue interesting in his passions and interests
I enjoyed with him the Le tour of france resume, asking him abut the strategies... and it seems he enjoy a lot my interest in his interest...!!.. I also asked him about his jogging training and he was so open t tell me how he had done and how tired he was after running 10 km...!!..

I need to remember how lovely and affective is being with me
Yes... and yesterday, on a first communion party of one f my S friends, he had been so affective in public... he was so nice, so care, so lovely...!..

About the new things i am doing...

Now i occupy more about the home things and tasks and do not left for tomorrow what i can do today

I insist on this, and he loves that...!!... Me making speciall dinner t our kids... me cleaning all the cuisine stuff before leaving...!...

I am deciding new plans and inviting friends to home, a think he likes so much... i let him take the initiative but some times i take it too
Like my initiative to make plans going to my friend home...!!... i said Yes to my friend and then, knowing that he had not any more plans, i told him we were going to that home at night...!!...

Now i know the best way to ask him money and do not complaint when he told me he hasnt to give me too much or XX ammount.
On saturday i asked him some money to buy presents for my S parties... So, at first he told me he hasnt and that we can go to that parties without present... So, very caml i told him NO... i dont like that... i cant go to that party without a pesent... if you can, k, but i cant...!!.. and my needs and positions counts too in this R....!...
So, in 10 minutes he get close to me, and say... hey, do you think you can buy the presents with XXX ammount..?... i said it was OK... and thanks...! Si, this also relate to another point i posted...
Now i am more direct when i complaint or ask him about something... i tell him exactly what i want or what i didnt like about something, in a calm and sofly tone of voice...

I put now a little dosis of mistery on my day to day... i dont tell him everything and he needs to ask me just to know some things about my day, what i had done, whom i saw... etc... i had found being not too much transparent and open to him, maintain him more interest and curious about me.
After the meeting with my friend and his h, he catched bc the cnversation how many things i am enjoying with this old group of women friends from my college... It is like showing him... hey, she is enjoying her own space... her frriends... you are important but nt the nly reason for happiness in her life...

The humour in the R is so important, laughing together, being stuid some times, makes the difference from time to time

On the first cmmunion party on sunday, both were so humour in the group... always joking, laughing, talking with others... and i need to say i was SO PRETTY... this is a point so important also for myself and for him...!!... Now i try always to look atractive, even before getting bed, awakening, etc, etc...!!

So, this are some improvements... also we will sign a reconciliation on court tomorrow...!!...
I hope you are also doing well, specially with yourself...
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Andrea