I'm at a point where I've been changing myself and improving in those areas where I failed and I seem to get nothing but resentment at this point. She calls my attempts to rectify my half of the problems as a "slap in the face". And then asks "why couldn't you do these things before I reached me low point"
Telling her I did not hear what she was TRYING to communicate back then gets me no where. Bottom line is I hear her now and I understand. How long can she go before she starts to come to grips with the situation and makes a decision to leave or stay?
We cannot afford to live separately and she has asked for a divorce but to be allowed to stay here. I said No-way can I handle that. She may be ready for someone new but I am not ready and could not handle it.
Our three sons told her if she was to divorce me, she was not welcome here and I did not put them up to that. She now feels like she has 3 options, stay and be miserable (which does no good) go and lose everything or die....
Her doc gave her anxiety meds but she refuses to take them. She sits in her car when she gets home for long periods and does not want to come in. She dreads being at home brings us all down while she is here and refuses to acknowledge she is depressed and tells her shrink that she has a more clear mind than ever.
