So their's is a very convoluted story. He was having an affair with another girl at work. His F found out, and then said it was OK she was willing to move past it. Then he couldn't decide between the 2 of them, but temporarily picked the A. Then the opportunity came up for him to apply to come to Poland. He took this, and left the whole situation behind. He kept dating the A girl for awhile, then broke it off with her. He has dogs with his former F, and she had started dating someone else during this time. They kept in contact because he wanted to see the dogs. As time has passed (been nearly a year now), they have started talking even more, and chat online almost every day. He thinks she is probably the most amazing woman in the world, typical WA nonsense--"I don't deserve her...".
At this point he is still pretty confused and it as if he is waiting for a sign about what to do. He doesn't feel like he has the right to barge in on her life, and also would not want her to come begging. From what I understood though, if she were to bring up the topic in a very cool and casual way, like maybe coming to visit etc., he would be open. I get the picture he needs to see there actually IS a possibility there, a bridge if you will, but also not have it shoved in his face. It is typical unfair WA stuff again, but SO interesting to have a glimpse into his tortured mind...Hopefully I'll get to have another conversation with him at some point before leaving as it's pretty insightful.
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
