It sounds to me like you H has some things to work through for himself. I know you are sorry and feel bad about the A, but letting someone...anyone abuse you like that is not ok. No matter how much they have been hurt. I don't know if you are in C now, but if you two aren't then you need to get there. That type of behavior is only going to kill an already devastated R. Just my .02.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option