today H had big heart to heart . I tried to avoid but did what I could by agreeing etc etc .
Why try to avoid?
This is what you WANT, isn't it? A heart-to-heart. Why avoid it? Don't AVOID !
There is a recommendation in the DB practice to NOT pursue a relationship talk. But the corollary is to NEVER avoid one if your partner desires it.
This is your CHANCE! He is reaching to you. You should delight in the opportunity to listen to him. If only my wife would speak to me!
People are afraid of the emotion. But it MUST COME OUT. He needs to talk through it. What better person to talk through it with, than YOU? Those are good chances for you, good opportunities. Don't dread them.
But prepare yourself! Prepare yourself to hear of his hurt. to empathize. To NOT be defensive. Steel yourself. Get yourself in shape, spiritually.
