Then, somehow wormed my way in to us being together more as a family, and then now, I'm going to try to pull back a bit. I gave her a taste of the family thing we loved so much. Now focus back on me.
I'll see what happens.
Funny thing with my sitch, H is the one that has initiated the "Family Time." I really don't do to much of that. I do however make myself too available to him.
Originally Posted By: hopeful4her
Your good people, Corey.
You too Roger!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Corey is good people indeed! That is why I love ya, too, my dear! You and many others here will always have a place in my heart.
That is also why I 'push' you at times , knowing that you wanna knock me upside the head !
Seriously though, I want you to dig deeper and see what's really going on. I know what my H is like and how I've allowed his actions to affect me. If your H is the same as mine in many ways, then I know you're hurting a lot more than what you lead the rest of us to believe here. I want to see you get yourself out of that hazy, glum place. I want to see you flourish, Corey, and I want to see that you did it on your own and that you did it for no one else but yourself because you BELIEVE and KNOW FOR A FACT that you deserve a helluva lot more than what you're getting now.
BTW, I am glad you see your part in this:
Originally Posted By: Sugar and Spice
Funny thing with my sitch, H is the one that has initiated the "Family Time." I really don't do to much of that. I do however make myself too available to him.
(((((((Corey)))))))
Last edited by GoingForward; 10/01/0807:01 AM.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
SAS.... Hi....haven't been over to this side in a while....just wanted to check and see how you are....trying to catch up on your thread..
Well, my H had to go for genetic testing on Sept. 3...we haven't heard anything yet but it's because the mother filed for child support....after 8 years....and to dig at me....I was crushed when that envelop arrived....she can actually go bad and get back support for 8 years...my insides have just been churning now for 4 weeks...results can take up to 8....unless he got them and hasn't told me yet....we pretty much know the kid is his but legally now.....I still can't believe this is happening....when I see him I miss him so much but then there are times i just want to smack his face...
He has been gone since January....havent been intimate with him since last June (07).....I miss being close to him...when I see him I want to hug him but he says we don't need to do that...we can be civil without it.....I saw a picture of his OW...who I know from growing up...she used to be very pretty....she looked terrible...at least the picture I saw did.....
My D16 wrote a paper for English last week....I posted a blurp of it on my thread in Mid Life Crisis....check it out...u will relate....
Anyway, wanted to check in on ya and say hello...
Treese
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
My D16 wrote a paper for English last week....I posted a blurp of it on my thread in Mid Life Crisis....check it out...u will relate....
Treese
Tresse (sorry for the tj S&S)
Just checked out the paper - that is AWESOME insight from a 16 year old. Please give her extra (((hugs))) from me as well. I have a 16 year old D that is keeping things sooooo inside it pains me daily.
Take care.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
(((Treese))) I can only imagine what you are feeling right now. I can't believe that she has waited 8 years to file for this. I will have to go over and read your sitch more fully. I printed the parts of your DD's paper and I am just floored. (((Hugs)) to you and your kids. Thanks for coming by and posting.
LOST no hj apologies necessary. Its amazing to see how our children see things.
Treese, thanks again for sharing and keep your chin up. I'm always here if you need me.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Thanks for the hugs.....definately passing them along to my D...as I told her....she is wise beyond her years...16 is a tough age....of course she turned 16 in June and her father wasn't there to share....I took her to dinner and shopping....she was very close to her father.....the blurp I printed was only a part of that paper...I was sobbing...it just showed me what she really noticed and took in....I have always told my children to fight for what they believe in and she said that to my H and he told her to tell me not to fight any longer...not something you say to your daughter.
My D is recovering from a tonsilectomy she had on Monday...we copied that paper...I handed it to H last night and told him he needed to read it....we haven't heard from him since....if I were to guess....and the way they are thinking right now...he will say what he always does....that she is young and doesn't understand relationship, blah, blah, blah,.....some day he'll realize but for now....probably not....soooooooo another day.... I'm exhausted but I pulled out some extra energy from my back pocket....I'm using that right now...
Take care all.....
Treese
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
Not much new around here. DD has been sick for two days. Nothing major, just a cold, but miserable non the less.
Trying to catch up with everyone's sitch and convince myself to sit down and do some homework....
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Glad you posted! Sorry your D is sick, that's no fun esp. now that the weather is nice (hopefully where you are too). Come on, it's way too late for homework. Maybe tomorrow? (I love to be a bad influence sorry)! Karen
Well Karen I ended up doing anything but homework last night...LOL. My DD is better, MIL is taking them both to DS game. He can't play, but will be on the sidelines, he is still part of the team. I am going to clean my house and then go and do something fun just for me. I don't know what, but something. I'll be damned if I'm going to sit in this house all by myself.
I've been feeling really onery the last couple of days and its not necessarily a good thing. I just need to get out and have some time to myself I think. Too much time cooped up here. Maybe I'll go see a movie. I want to see Fireproof, but I'm not sure I'd be able to sit through it.
who knows....
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
, knowing that you wanna knock me upside the head 
! 
Karen