Hey Rob...well, you sound better. I agree about Grace in fact, if you arent in her life 24/7 she will miss you terribly and you will rise up in her mind as this huge important thing, thats how kids are (I see my BFF D do it to her absent father, but thats through his choice, sadly).

I was amazed at the convo with her...why did she ASSUME you would be alone and sad at Christmas !!?? She left you, for all she knows, you could be happily remarried by Xmas! I thought that was a very strange thing for her to have said. Are you still getting coached by Jody BTW?

Also, she actually said she was behaving like X becuase people had told her (or the L?) to let hte L handle things and not deal with you. Thats crazy! She is a grown woman! I thikn she wlll look bacl on this time and regret her behaviour and think, what the hell was all that about?? I hope she will anyway.

She also expressed concern for you, perhaps there is a little softening, now that she has got what she wants.. it remains to be seen if she really has though, hey.

Al xxx


Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs
IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08
Reconciled 05/09 now married!
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