I wonder if what you see here is actually yourself. I know that you have posted in the past that you can relate to FIB's wife, that you can understand how she feels. Could it be that you are so busy seeing yourself in her, and trying to make FIB see that (as you would like your H to), that you can't see what is really there? I think you are off the mark here.
Those of us who have been with FIB this whole ride know how much he loves his wife, and how hard he has tried to show her that, in many, many ways, not just the material ones.
Yes, she's broken. Is she confused? I don't really know. Maybe not. Is all this just due to a communication breakdown? No, that is for sure.
FIB,
Just a little reminder that this is so hard b/c you are still living together. It won't be an issue when you officially split b/c you will be able to make a visitation schedule that allows you primary access to the children on the Jewish holidays, and her on the Christian ones.
Is she sincere? Who knows? It doesn't matter. You are dealing with an incredibly difficult situation with dignity.
Now might be a good time to firm up plans for Yom Kippur, so there are no surprises.
Love, Nicola
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