I have not read the Bernie Z book yet (still on my list though). Our being the same age B, I'm experiencing the same loss of auto-erection. I can also on occasion experience the opposite of PE which is delayed ejaculation (can't quite get there). What I have found (and my wife now knows the right things to do) is that a little extra stimulation helps to get things back to attention and the juices flowing, so to speak. One thing that does it for me every time without fail is if she (Ummm... this is a little embarrassing) plays with my nipples....oops I said it. Whatever it takes right? At least it is a holistic approach.
You may discover some erogenous zones of your own that you hadn't thought about using/stimulating before.
I need to get that new male sexuality soon and start working on those exercises.
