OK, first, Bagheera: I get all that. Remember, I didn't fall off the turnip truck recently LOL.
Alright -- I'm sorry if I offended your intellect. I just know many women (who didn't fall of the 'turnip truck' recently either) who gave up long ago ever trying to figure their men out or forge a closer relationship with them: they have simply resolved to co-habitate and live out their parallel lives until the end.
Heck, my own wife had reached that point some years ago. It took ME to rock the boat and get us working to get back on course. Leave it to the HD partner to whack the hornet's nest and stir things up....
Back to Bernie Z's book: I suspect that it might take working with an actual sex therapist to get your H to do the exercises; that is, it would probably take some outside authority figure to give the 'homework' assignments and assess the results. I'm odd in that I did the PE exercises on my own. You *might* be able to get him to do the ED exercises on his own, only because it would save his having to talk to someone (beyond you) about it, but there will be a tendency to give up when failure occurs -- and it will sometimes occur -- during the process. That outside, experienced observer helps a lot to get you past the "I can't" stuff.
I also have some ED insight to share, since I seem to be in a blabby, Friday afternoon mood, but I'll put it in my own thread.
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
