Ah, no confrontation. Originally the plan was to confront her and then talk to the lawyer in the hopes that the confrontation would shock her back into rational thought. However, since the last round of text messages from her phone shows her getting into a deeper relationship with OM1 and cleaning her things out from OM2, I don't figure that there is much chance of any shock changing her direction and I frankly am uninterested in being with this person at all.
Thus, the plan transformed into talk to the lawyer and get everything in order and the filing prepared and then confront the wife, followed by a visit to the lawyer to file the motion, followed by sturm and drang and all kinds of craziness as her self-image fights hard for something that her sub-conscious doesn't want, custody and responsibility for the kids.
Because of her behavior, everyone including all her family are saying that I should seek out full custody of the children and frankly as far as I'm concerned if I've got the kids, I should keep all the money. Were I to get that, she would need to get a different job than the one she has. She would have to move back into the retail world and still might have to beg OM1 to let her move in. My one friend suggested that I just go get the black hat now, because I'm going to be the bad guy in her mind for the next while.
It's been hard a few times especially when she is asking for a favor to tell her off and to get her boys to help her out, but, until the confrontation, I'm playing it cool.
