I too like schedules but it seems a general theme that the WAS's don't. It isn't really fair in the LBS but it is just how it is at the moment. I think the 180 here would to just not mention time limitations. You saying that you don't want him to work on things is telling him what to do or how to feel. It is his choice to work on things, or not, and no amount of telling will make him to do it, just like when we choose to work on ourselves. It also sounds like the 180 may be to let him lead the contact, ask him where he would like to go if he suggests meeting etc and let him organise the time.
I found with my sitch, before I found DBing, that I scheduled our 'dates' as it made me feel better. I organised that we would meet every Wednesday and he agreed. This greatly reduced my stress but he then turned around a few months later and said he didn't think about me between meetings. Well, in a way, he had no need to. He knew that he was going to see me next Wednesday and he knew that I was going to organise what we did, he had no real reason to think. JMO
