Wow, well then there is a lot of really good digging going on here, to 'get to the bottom' of things.

I like your post Bobbi and also, yes, I guess we all end up projecting somewhat where we are at, its understandable isnt it. I am curious how much we are acting at all from fear? I think we all do, us LBS and our ex's, in different degrees. I think that stuff I posted on my thread today was very very interesting and seems to be in the air in the conversations going on on the boards by the looks of it!

And hey, you dont need to defend yourself to us!
Al xxx


Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs
IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08
Reconciled 05/09 now married!
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