I'm All That and A Box Of Tampons

[Distressed67]

have a batchiit magnet attached to my assss..

I think mine is on my forehead.

Is there a difference. Sorry just could not resist the temptation.

[ernest88]

Kathleen..I hear ya..I do have questions though and you knew I would soooooo away we go!!

About cafegirl34? Don't run a tab.

I hear ya here.. I get this.

Where is your mind at?

My mind is on moving forward. That does include dating. It does not mean a full blown R. It means having a good time. Going out.

You say something about all the guys in the area are after her and she chose you? HelllooOOO... boyfriend alert. Where is he in this picture?

Yep, she's hot..I don't know If I said all were after her but all do notice her..of course if a woman walks and can halfway talk then we notice her. The BF is right there with her and she knows straight up and to the point that I will not interject myself in that. She has also told me that she is in this relationship and is faithful to him to the end but says the road is "rocky"..which is all good with me.

Forget longing looks, being the guy in the wings. DBing her, lots of emails.. is she talking to you more than she is to her boyfriend about her situation?

I could not tell you the answer to this. I can tell you she knows I won't fix her, I won't rescue her. This is her stuff to take care of.

If so.. hello inappropriate friendship.

If I'm guilty of an inappropraite R with her then you and I have an inappropriate R for sure..the difference is this..I don'talk to her on emotional issues either mine or hers. All I know is her R with her BF is "rocky". She knows I'm in the middle of a D.

you mean y'all are just sharing notes back and forth, looking forward to seeing something in your email from her?

the notes are nothing more that chit chat..getting to know you type stuff. There is no more n those notes than what there would be if I was standing in thecafe perusing the menu.

You're a guy she's attracted to and vise versa because she approached you!

that's true..I sort of thought that's how things worked..
LOL

Run...

I won't run. and I won' wait. I'm available she's not. She has to get her chitt straight before Mikey gets in the game. It's a boundary I have. I'm not an OM.

Now.. if she deals with her stuff (without you being her coach or confidant) and resolves it and approaches you as a single woman.. then that shows something.

tell it all sister, tell it all

Look at the menu

Oh I do..More than just her are approaching me Kathleen..Helll their coming out of the woodwork...remember.."I'm all that and a box of tampons" LOL

[KenF]

Mike,
i have to agree with Gypsy on this, and it may be, NO, it IS because of what i am going through. My W, in our R, wanted out, and chose to have OM to help her do it. Maybe it all started out as emails and glances, but unfortunately for me it ended up her leaving me for him.

and that hurts like a mother. and no matter how DAM her boyfriend is, i'm sure it'll hurt for him too.

I believe your intentions are honest, that i have no doubt. But she has to leave him on her own, and by 'on her own' that has to mean she doesnt think she has Mike waiting for her. know what i'm saying? even if its just emails and glances, thats still Mike waiting for her.

her having a fall-back plan means she may not put in the work her current R deserves.

hard to word this all right, i have the feeling in my gut, but it may not come out my fingers right.

of course, i wish i was in your position. mustang GT, eh? a girl who keeps her car in pristine condition shows respect for something beautiful. and thats a good thing.

[ernest88]

Mike,
i have to agree with Gypsy on this, and it may be, NO, it IS because of what i am going through. My W, in our R, wanted out, and chose to have OM to help her do it. Maybe it all started out as emails and glances, but unfortunately for me it ended up her leaving me for him.

and that hurts like a mother. and no matter how DAM her boyfriend is, i'm sure it'll hurt for him too.

I believe your intentions are honest, that i have no doubt. But she has to leave him on her own, and by 'on her own' that has to mean she doesnt think she has Mike waiting for her. know what i'm saying? even if its just emails and glances, thats still Mike waiting for her.

her having a fall-back plan means she may not put in the work her current R deserves.

hard to word this all right, i have the feeling in my gut, but it may not come out my fingers right.

of course, i wish i was in your position. mustang GT, eh? a girl who keeps her car in pristine condition shows respect for something beautiful. and thats a good thing.

I concur and agree here. Yes, I do know break ups hurt no matter what the reasons..

I've not made myself her fall back by any means and she knows this.

My intentions are honest Ken. I do have boundaries. I don't particiapte in anything at all that would lead to their breakup and actually she does not either. We have both made it quite clear where we stand.

i wish i was in your position. mustang GT, eh? a girl who keeps her car in pristine condition shows respect for something beautiful. and thats a good thing.

I'm not in any position as far as I'm concerned..

and by the way..something else I'll share..I have a date Sunday night..it's just for dinner. It's not with cafegirl34..but with someone else..

[Gypsy]

Geez, Mikey..

"and by the way..something else I'll share..I have a date Sunday night..it's just for dinner. It's not with cafegirl34..but with someone else.. "

Can you hold your cards a little closer to your chest??!?

*hugsandsmiles*

[ernest88]

Geez, Mikey..

"and by the way..something else I'll share..I have a date Sunday night..it's just for dinner. It's not with cafegirl34..but with someone else.. "

Can you hold your cards a little closer to your chest??!?

*hugsandsmiles*

I'm having trouble fighting them off right now kathleen..for what it's worth financailgirl40 did not approach me..LOL

[smith18]

Can you hold your cards a little closer to your chest??!?

I got a peek and he has the joker!

My advice on cafegirl34 is the same as others - back away and dont be a reason for her boyfriend to blame his lose of her because of you.

[smith18]

Mike - I like your labels better than my fractional ones (ie G39.9999). What you need to find is "fishing_girl39"

[ernest88]

Can you hold your cards a little closer to your chest??!?

I got a peek and he has the joker!

My advice on cafegirl34 is the same as others - back away and dont be a reason for her boyfriend to blame his lose of her because of you.

I'm agreeing with everyone else too..you all can rest assured that I will not put myself in that position and I have not put myself in that position. If I was in that position I beleive we would already be out with each other. ...we aren't and we are not going to be unless she is free and clear of BF. I've got standards I live by folks. I don't cheat. I'm not OM. I won't go there, I won't lead her there and I'm not leading her there.

She has to do this herself..

[ernest88]

Mike - I like your labels better than my fractional ones (ie G39.9999). What you need to find is "fishing_girl39"

well Kerry since you brought it up..I was sort of skiddish about saying it here but a childhood friend of mine called me last night to inform me that his hairstylist47 wants me to call her. Hairstylist47 just happens to style about 2-3 miles from me. I do need a haircut early next week and usually drive about 35 miles to haristylist38 who has cut my hair for about 9 years, she's D'd 2 times also by the way....

the possibilities are endless.