Registered: 12/11/07 Posts: 248 I got a call from my wife yesterday. She was being a little less controlling than normal. She went on to tell me she needed to borrow money. She had already borrowed money from her parents and owes them the money. It just so happens I recieved the written version of our mediation agreement and it requested 7K more than was originally offered. I have trouble lending her money(that I probably will never get back) to someone that is trying to take me through the ringer as it is. I feel bad because I hate to see her in financial straits but she isn't working and is spending money going out and hanging out with OM at the bar. I don't know what to do...I don't feel it's my responsibilty to help her if she is living with the OM but it hurts me to say no. I offered to let her have some of the oney we did agree on to hold her over but it probably won't last too long. We talked on the phone for about an hour and we were getting along a little better but she keeps telling me that I couldn't make her happy and she hopes I learn how to make another woman happy(that hurts)...I don't know if I am DBing well anymore, if I am at all. Once we get this agreement done it's over. But I want so bad to work this out and I am so tempted to pour my heart out to her but I know I can't...what can I do?? I would love to be her knight in shining armor but I don't want to be her doormat either. I had to reiterate to her that I have to take care of myself because I have noone to help me with a place to stay or pay my bills if I lost my job. I could lend her some money but it would eat into my emergency money and right now it is important to have. Everytime I think things can't get worse or more difficult they do.... _________________________ H 41
H 42 W 37 M17 T20 years 3 daughters 11,11,14 seperated 11/26/07 EA neighbor/ moved in w/ him 2/8 Filed for D 01/08 finalized soon
