When I was reading about how you were there sitting by the fire waiting for him to "talk", I know that feeling. Sitting there and in your mind thinking, " OK buddy, anytime now." lol I understand fully. I'd go months and say nothing, and then he'd do something out of the ordinary, and I thought ok, here it comes. Finally! NOPE! But, in hindsight, on both men, I do now think it is there way of trying. But when it gets down to it, they can't have the " real " talk for whatever reason. Being scared, not knowing what to say, afraid of ruining a perfectly good evening, or maybe scared it will end up in a fight. As I'm assuming it has, because I know it has here a lot.
Here is what jumped out at me in that story. You mentioned that he never wants to sit by the fire. Sounds as if he's trying, and the "fire" was almost like foreplay in his eyes. He knows you want more, and he knows your waiting,then when he went to bed and asked, " Don't you want to fool around?" Hmmmmmmmmm Made me think he really thought you should have figured it out. When in reality you were sitting there hoping and waiting for more, and he was more then likely sitting there telling himself, " good job, this ought to make her happy and realize I love her."
YOU and I, know better.( Or need more ) I mean, I would have thought the exact same thing as you. I would have been baffled, but if you really look at it, it kind of gave me hope for you. Looks as if he may be trying to do what you want, he just happens to be WAY off the mark so to speak. But, at least there's effort. It's a starting point. :S
That's what I thought anyway.
Glad to hear about your grandson, hope the new meds work!
