My H also hated me having plans and schedules. It seems to be a very common theme on this board. WAHs seem to have felt controlled, stifled etc. by us.
My H is also in his last year of an MBA program, so things were in a general state of flux for us anyway. I too wouldn't want him making big decisions right now (unless he suddenly was released from the aliens), but I also don't think I would want to specifically TELL him not to make decisions.
Just a thought, but from what you've said, your H sees you as overly schedule/timeline oriented, and thus potentially as controlling. If you tell him that you don't want him to make any decisions for the next 3 months, he could POSSIBLY see this as controlling. I sort of tried the same tactic with my H on a call once, and it didn't go over so well. It still gives the impression that you are waiting around for him to make up his mind, which of course in a way you are, as we all are, whether we GAL successfully or not, we are still married but in limboland.
Since it seems that you do actually see your H on a regular basis, could you instead maybe SHOW him that you don't expect him to make any decisions by avoiding R talks, not bringing them up etc.? Perhaps if he does try to start one himself, you could say something like "I'm just enjoying what we have right now" or something like that? I'm just wondering WHY he feels like he has to make a decision right now to begin with?
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
