NO you cant....i went thru the same thing....they have MLC blinders on, there is absolutely nothing you can do besides detach and work on you. trying to talk rationally to an alien is like bashing your head against a wall. many many ...too many to count have all given you the same advice..but you come up with a reason to do it your way and it ALWAYS backfires.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest