of all the LBS's who had WAS come home I cant think of any who had success with your method. I believe they all gave their S some time to think and go thru the crisis. That is why your h is so stuck..you will NOT let him go thru the steps he needs.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest