I'm sorry you've reached this point. I'm confused that you can love each other tremendously but can't find a way to balance your life goals. But if this is what you feel is best then you should trust in your decision and accept the consequences. Life turns on a dime and if we aren't open to the new, we'll never go anywhere. Although newness brings its own form of heartache, it's almost always worth the pain. Limbo is a horrible place.