I guess it's over

[NikB]

There is really no new news; just him admitting that he won't reconcile with me.

THIS is why I wasn't surprised at all that he tried to sleep with you. Nothing's new.. honestly, I bet the convo didn't even feel "bomb-like" to him as much as it hurt you.

I bet he was pretty surprised when "Huh? She doesn't want to sleep with me? Why? I've been nice tonight and I told her I might come over sometime this weekend.. that's not enough? Huh, Weird."

Is it really a good idea to tell him it's "too painful" to talk to him? Seems like then he will still be assuming I am waiting in the wings.

Well.. say it in your own words, and don't make it sound like you're hanging around waiting. Just make it sound like YOU and most importantly ABOUT you. "You hurt me when you talk to me" is very different from "I hurt when I talk to you." If it were me saying that, it would be the truth. It's too painful to be just your friend - it ain't happenin'. Up to you how much of the "emotion" piece of it you want to share.

Ack sorry for the tough times in the mortgage industry, I can only imagine. I'm in financial services so I feel your pain but I think yours is even worse! I hope something comes through soon. If you can at least afford the gas and a cheap hostel I'd still go on the road trip.

(((Trixi)))