Should I pinch myself?

[optimistwife]

So much good advice above...

One other thing I would suggest is that when you do go to C, try to sit back and let him talk! It is too easy for most of us to jump right on the C bandwagon and start pouring it out. Then they just sit back, clam up, and won't contribute (at least my experience).

I wish I had let H lead the conversation at the sessions- we may have gotten further (also if our therapist was pro-marriage, he didn't work for us style wise either).

I woud also think that a DB joint session with a coach would be a great way to go.