Hey Dawn...You know my H was affectionte to me somewhat last night when he brought the kids home. He knew about how bad my day had been and gave me a hug. But that was it. But it was nice that he cared. I know he cares and is just a mixed up individual. BUT I dont think I could do what you are doing. But then again, Im not in that sitch. My life is more peaceful with him on the outside.
Hi, Kissa, Well, at least you know your H cares...that's something, anyway. I think mine subconsciously wishes I would just go ahead and kill myself, even though my suicidal depression was one of the things that always bothered him the most about me. His life would be SO much easier (and OW would be so much happier!) if I would just go POOF! He acts like he hates me but wouldn't be so uncouth as to say so.
My life is more peaceful when he's not around too, even when I know he's busily bonking OW, but I have no plans to show him the door. He is decision-challenged, and I am not going to make it for him. If I did, he would undoubtedly find a way to blame me. As it is, he has managed to avoid touching me in any intentional way in over a month, even though we not only live in the same house, but sleep in the same bed. Absolutely and utterly ridiculous.
Okay, here I go hijacking your thread again...sorry, need to do my venting on my own thread.
So sorry to hear about new OW in your sitch! I would like to think that if she is a missionary, and if she has any brains, she wouldn't touch him with a 20-foot pole if she knew about the ties he has to you. No guarantees, of course (how many people in adulterous relationships sit in churches on any given Sunday? Probably enough to fill quite a few stadiums! Or would that be stadia??!).
Peace and Blesings Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
