I think that deciding what makes you happy in a marriage and recieving that happiness is what makes a good marriage.
By having a PA I took from my H the two most important thing he needed in the marriage and that was loyalty and being able to hold his head up high.
What I lacked in the marriage I would still lack today. That is attention. Do I think that I could get that from him? Yes. But it would take effort on his part. I want him to put effort in and he cant even be bothered phoning. That is because at this stage he does not want to be married.
I want to be married - but why?
today H had big heart to heart . I tried to avoid but did what I could by agreeing etc etc . It was tough. What he said was interesting and I would like to hear from any other male whose W had an PA, if they felt the same way at all.
He said that he does not feel hurt anymore or angry. What he is left with is a feeling of being ripped off in life. He said if that feeling went away then maybe he could find love again. How does that feeling go away. We are trying to become totally finacially independent of one another. But that is going to take time.
Did anyone else feel ripped off in life and did the feeling go away ?
Quote:
If I could get the past from my mind, it would be so much easier to work on the future. If I could get the past from my W's mind, it would be a helluva lot better.
Why do you need to get the past out of your mind ?
You know what you did wrong ? You must be sorry ? You have taken steps to correct.
