Thanks for replying. As far as the 1-10 scale goes, I'm not much of a numbers person (even though I am an economist, go figure) - but in short, we get a long but no affection. She calls me by my pet name a lot and is starting to use the "we" phase more often. She is starting to confide in me more but still has trust issues and maybe some resentment. So whatever that is, that's where I am today.
Well, yesterday she got the contract going with the seller for a loft. All that is left to do is an inspection, get a closing date and she/her friend are in a new place. Today she was telling me that what she likes about the place is that the place is like two homes in one - so she can have you part of the loft and her friend can have the second part.
I am putting money in as far the closing costs are concern. As much as I don't like it - my daughter will always have that connection to her best friend simply because he was there when I wasn't. So there are two men in her life. If my wife ever started to date, then there would be three men in her life and I don't think there is much I can do to stop that. Unfortunately, that is the price of my neglect.
The only thing I can do right now is focus on myself and demonstrate to her that I truly do care about her and my daughter. Today I had to miss work because my daughter was sick and my ex was thankful. I am really glad that I had that opportunity (not that I want my daughter to be sick or anything).
Odd thing, today my ex called me up while she was at work and started to ask me about the type of food the fancy restaurant I am taking her to for her birthday has. She then said, "you know you have to all out for my birthday with flowers, balloons and gifts since its a special event" (she turns 30 - she beat me by one month). Don't know what to make of that - but I will see how she is feeling when her birthday draws near. Any thoughts on that? I am very tempted to follow her suggestion, but again I don't want to be pushy.
Although I see some progress, there are still plenty of days/times when I feel that I've made no progress at all. But I know this is going to take a lot of patience on my end. I haven't been talking to her much at night like I use to. We use to talk almost even night before bed - but then again I wasn't see her as much either since I wasn't picking up my daughter from daycare until recently. But I've been good with not calling her although I am so tempted and letting her do the initiating.
