I guess it's over

[Esky94]

Unfortunately, I don't think he's conflicted one bit. He doesn't want to be married. He doesn't want to be committed to anything.
He would really like for me to be his friend, be in his life, sleep with him--but he doesn't want me to "count on him".

Hi. I'm kinda new and in my own drama, but I thought I put in my two cents.

I agree you need to go dark on him. He is being selfish (and I'll fess up saying it takes one to know one. :P) He might not realize how selfish he's being, but from the outside, he's hunting and searching outside the marriage to fill some lack that he doesn't have and it's not your job to give it to him. He needs to figure that out for himself, and bring it back in himself and if it hurts you to be close by while he's doing/learning/seeking/f*cking, then you need to go dark.

I know that hurts to hear this it and probably doesn't help the relationship, but since he has different ideas on what "the relationship" actually is compared to your idea...there isn't one.

-Esky