I guess it's over

[Trixi]

I personally saw some positives in the things he said to you, but sounds like you need to back off and go dark as you said. He sounds pretty conflicted. How are you doing tonight? Do you feel, as though I did, that you have ha "the scales lifted from your eyes" ?

Unfortunately, I don't think he's conflicted one bit. He doesn't want to be married. He doesn't want to be committed to anything.
He would really like for me to be his friend, be in his life, sleep with him--but he doesn't want me to "count on him".

I don't know about the scales being lifted. I could tell he was drifting away from me. There is really no new news; just him admitting that he won't reconcile with me.
He tried to "blame" me for the situation; I "let him get away with it". Big Ass Eye Roll.