Quotes found on Divorcebusting (II)

[Ready2Change]

Expressing Empathy:
1. Be a feeling mirror; "you look sad" "you look angry" "you look scared"
2. Don't therapize
3. Echo feelings back
4. Ask; "how are you feeling now?"
5. Ask; "what was that like for you?"
6. Ask; "if your feelings could speak what would they say?"
7. Don't try to make the person feel better or cheer up or look on the bright side.
8. Collect what they are feeling
9. Compare with your own feelings of the past
10. Communicate back; Say "it hurts doesn't it" or "that would make me angry too".
11. Ask yourself; How would I have to feel to say what this person just said.
12. Say; "I can see your eyes filling with tears, do you want to tell me how you feel?"