Sorry, but I had to chuckle at this! Sounds like something my grandma would say, and in fact, she did - said it many years ago to my mom when my dad left.
(((((Trixi)))))
I don't have anything more to add. These wonderful ladies have given you such sage advice.
Your H sounds a lot like mine did in the very beginning. He didn't want to be with me, but he sure as he** didn't want anyone else to be with me either. Selfish. Very, very selfish.
He acts as though he wants no part in your life unless, as Nik accurately pointed out, it's to be friends with benefits and nothing more. My feisty side wants to say tell him to go **** himself , but where would that get you?
As you've already heard - I just want to be sure that you hear it again , take back control over your own life. Move forward for your own well-being and peace of mind. H doesn't matter right now - YOU DO.
You can still choose to leave the door open for your H. Just don't expect him to come walking through it a new man.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
, but where would that get you? 
