Aussie Girl - Patience might finally be paying off

[Dawn of Hope]

Sometimes I think our Hs were good enough for all of us BEFORE this sh!t started, but after we learn and grow and change, they really need to work hard to be able to stand beside us...

This falls into the BING BING BING category! I thought my H just about walked on water, and that he had by far gotten the short end of the stick in our R, right up until I found out about his first EA. I still think he was a pretty wonderful person for the first 15 years or so that we were together.

As for now...well, as we all know, our WAS's are *totally* different people once MLC kicks in, and I wouldn't even go on a first date with my H if I were meeting him today and he were acting toward me as he currently is, especially if I knew about his history of lying and cheating. Since this whole mess began, I have done so much work on myself that I am a totally different person too, but in entirely positive ways, especially in the realm of self-esteem. He is in IC, but as far as I can tell (given that he doesn't really talk to me about anything of significance), he has not done that deep, painful work necessary to become a better person, and is still wallowing in the muck of his immoral behavior. I still feel that he doesn't deserve me, but now it's because I believe that HE's not worth it, rather than that *I* am not worth it.

In short: I have improved dramatically. He has regressed. As a result, I am now light-years ahead of him.

So...that is a great insight, but enough about me! Essie, how are YOU doing today? If you have any insights about the goal thing, I would love to hear that too! You have gotten lots of good advice here, IMO. How are you doing with GAL and having FUN?

Peace,
Dawn