Hope - Sounds like H took 1/2 his stuff so he has an excuse to keep coming back home. That is where he wants to be he's just not sure of himself or how to go about fixing what has been broken. Keep talking to your D. Hug her and kiss her and tell her as much as you can how much you love her and that you are there for her and she can tell you anything. I'm sure you are already but in time she will come around. My D and I have always had a close relationship since she was young so this transition has been hard for her but she is comfortable telling me everything she feels, thinks about, etc. You will have that too! I know you will! Be strong for yourself and for her! She will know and see the strength in you.
TxMom - I love the saying you posted! I am printing it and putting it on my monitor at work. It gave me chills when I read it. As for your question, if it were me I would let him stay in the house with the kids so he can feel what he is missing. Let him feel what its like with you not there. If you have pictures on the wall I bet he would look at those and remember. But that's just me....you do what feels right for you.
My H gets back today from Illinois from the funeral then turns around and leaves tomorrow. I did text him last night asking how everything went and he did respond that it went well and thanks for asking and that it was late there so he was going to bed. In my mind I hope that seeing this makes him think twice about what he is doing now. I hope that his uncle that he is very close too talked with him. Every day I say a prayer for him. It will be so hard for all of us when the holidays come and they are just around the corner.
Me35/H35 D16/SS14 M-1yr/known H 18yrs 1st Bomb: 4/26 OW35 2nd Bomb: 8/17 OW21 Moved out 8/21/08 H filed D on 9/9/08
God determines who walks into your life...it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.
