Sometimes I think our Hs were good enough for all of us BEFORE this sh!t started, but after we learn and grow and change, they really need to work hard to be able to stand beside us...
It is not fair for them in a way because as we go our path, our expectations from life and our relationships become clearer and bigger and accurate. We form a clear picture in our head of how we need to be loved and train ourselves to love in the best possible way we can. We are ready to give more and better love but EXPECT to get some back.
Speaking for myself, I know exactly what would make me happy and, honestly, my stbxH would have to do his (huge) part of self dicovery and improvement to be able to keep me satisfied and happy...
