Cinders .. I can empathise with a lot you have written here ..

My H is becoming more and more distant .. however unlike you I see this as a positive rather than a negative.

When my H first met OW, he was full of himself, like your H wanted us to be friends with me.. and for us all to get along … He would make any excuse to come to the door, phone me, text me just to let me know how happy he was.

Does he do it now? NO.

He hardly contacts me at all.
Is that cos he is all loved up with OW? I don’t think so.

They are spending less time together.
He is working more
Son hasn’t mentioned her texting or phoning like he used to.

Also; I have had no child maintenance for 2 months. My H has no money. (Gambling again no doubt. ) He is working all of the hours god sends to get enough money together to pay me.

His behaviour; his body language say one thing. NOT HAPPY!


So maybe your H is avoiding you cos he is starting to realise what he has lost. Maybe he is ashamed? Maybe it hurts to be reminded what he had. Maybe he’s waking up.

I understand that your H does not have a gambling problem so there are differences, but think about it .. during the honeymoon period of the R with OW he was happy to be around you. 2 years down the line when the honeymoon period has more than likely worn off he is distancing himself from you … Things are changing, it may not be for the reasons you think!!

Nutty

Last edited by Nutty Chick; 10/02/08 05:16 PM.
Be The Greener Grass.


Me 40
H 42
Son 11
Married 15 years.
Left May 2006 after gambling spree
I had EA August 2006
OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!)
I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.