H moving out!! Crisis I need help

[TxMomw/2girls]

Sometimes I wish my H affair had already had time to sizzle out before I found out... so hard when they move but Hope and I are going to be positive... all I want is the chance to see if we can make it work and get through the A ... if he gives me the chance I'll put 100% in it and if I just can't get past it or he can't then I would know in my heart that it would be time to move on...

OK update - saw H yesterday for a bit.. as mentioned I played it cool..we went over our schedules for the next month - business as I travel with my job and other stuff.. it seemed like normal (of course it is not)

Last night we had a little neighbor block party and all the kids played and the adults hung outside and had a few drinks etc... of course everyone asking where is my H? Why did his 40th b-day party get canceled? ... I haven't told them anything... so I decided to text him this " with all the neighbors tonight, everyone asking about you, wish you were here.. see you tomorrow"

I hear nothing back from him last night - not that it required a text back but b/c he is staying with OW and not rushing into finding his own place I knew he wouldn't text back.. I was also hoping the OW would maybe see the text.. not sure what he tells her when he is at our house.

I get a reply text this morning from him " Thanks for the sweet message last night. Plan on playing tennis tonight . I'll be there after my survey... have a great day"

thoughts??? of course there isn't much to read into but obviously I want to find any morsal of hope... More than I thought I'd get .. of course wish I had received this last night...

This DBing is so hard ... I struggle with my nice, "as if" attitude and worry that it lessons his guilt and makes him think I'm ok with all of this...(or that he is getting his cake and eating it too) but I get the concept that if I was cold, short, or always asking questions etc.. this is not attractive either... I've decided I'm going to do my best for the month of October to try to play it cool, talk his love language, fill his love bank up when I can, of course all with boundries... let him see the girls, do my 180's... plan for the worse and hope for the best... He knows how I feel about the OW and no room for 3 after the letter I gave him... but I will write something nice in his b-day card next week and just let him know that my door is still open when he is ready to come back and work on this M...


thoughts??

Hope how are you doing today? did you stay home? How was last night?

LE - any updates... I did email on Puppy thread we'll see if he responds