Great I was hoping to hear from you. You seem to really have a grasp at my mindset and hers. Again, it was done because I am hoping to get this new job and a big part of it will be benefits. I doubt very much I will take her off, I'm not that way. But, as you said, she needs to have reality brought up to her. My subliminal point to her is, you keep tellling yourslef and anyone else that its over between us, no chance of going back, but who knows what the future will bring. As everyone has indicated, they doubt she is really in love with this OM, but the fact that he isn't making it on his own (lives with his mommy)and neither is she, these realities are there. She is letting her bank account get beat up. I stoppoed fixing it for her a month ago.
As for being a damaging thing while she is in MLC, that's the reason I didn't say I am taking you off my health ins, I simply said you need to look at it, financially its more of a burden for me. That's it. Let her read into and decide the meaning. I am not being an ass, revengeful, vindictive or anything else.
No I don't want her back due to financial. But it was one of the reasons she left, too many bills, bill collectors calling, no light at the end of the tunnel, and so on...Right now I am on track, financially and she is not, so where is the financial blame. She is unhappy and indicated that I made her unhappy, not all the time over the past 4 years and the house and the mess and everything. I think all that lead to her meltdown. and trust me, I saw it after the bomb and have cleaned up the mess to a large degree. I am not rolling in money, but everything is paid in a timely fashion, no threatening letters, no final notices, no phone calls other than her creditors. I have not given them her cell phone number, although many people have told me too.
Anyway, thank for your response. I am straddling this as I have been since the bomb dropped. This is my first positive "I'm moving forward" statement I have made to her. It makes me feel good that I am now not feeling like a victim, but in control of things I didn't think I was in control of before. Hope to hear from you later. Have a great day.
